How quickly can you decide whether a guy is fit? rich? educated? kind? 5 seconds? 10 seconds? Faster? Going back to our evolutionary biology, how quickly we could tell if someone was going to eat us or fuck us was the difference in survival and so the ones left on this Earth are the ones that were better at figuring out who would give us the most children and who would not kill us. Makes sense if you are being chased by a saber tooth tiger and you only have a few moments to decide where to pop your nut for the most progeny. Not so much now.
What’s left of this vestige of our ancestors is the knack we have of judging EVERYTHING. Your mother always said, “Don’t Judge a Book by its Cover” but we now have scientists working with artists to do just that.
So why are we so quick to judge so negatively in Planet Gay? What does it mean when we perceive someone as too effeminate? too fat? badly dressed? driving the wrong car? We are giving meaning to some external cues that someone we believe are the true authentic values, expectations, and strengths of that very person we are judging.
Could it be that the years of gay men being surrounded by all these negative societal words and actions make us internalize them and then somehow protect ourselves from others getting close by quickly dispatching them with our quick judgements?
Next time you pick up a book, take it home and love it.